Being Negative Is A Choice
People around the office always comment on my upbeat personality. I consider this one of my greatest attributes. Recently, I had a flat tire and after the dust had settled, I was surprised at how stress free the situation was. Then it hit me, negativity is choice.
When people are negative, I can’t help but wonder the reason. Certainly there are times to be sad or upset, but for the most part we have many things to be grateful for. You see it all the time on social media, people complaining about X, Y, and Z. However, a simple mindset shift can help change perspective on any situation, and that is to prepare.
When it comes to finances, make sure you have an emergency fund for any events life throws at you. If you know you’re going to vacation next year, begin to formulate a game plan. There is a snow storm coming, this means check and make sure you are stocked with the necessary supplies. Negativity is constantly knocking on our doors, but it’s how we prepare that will turn these potentially negative events into simple stress free situations.
Learning is important throughout all aspects of our life. Whether it be at our jobs, or at home when we decide to make a new dish. We are constantly learning and it is how we apply what we’ve learned that will determine future results.
People turn negative when their car breaks down and they have no money. Sure, this might be alright the first time, but the goal is to learn from that event. Now you might have an emergency fund in place to negate what would be a negative situation. Maybe you cook something and deviated from the recipe, resulting in a poorly cooked meal. Next time you know to follow the recipe and that will turn away negative results and feelings.
Last is, we as humans need to stop and reflect. Let’s reference my first statement of the flat tire. I wasn’t bothered because of two items. First, I had an emergency fund in place, which meant there was no worry about finances. Secondly, I pushed the tires to the limit and that was my fault. Therefore, there was no reason to stress.
Too many times we get down and blame negative events on anything and everything but ourselves. Taking it a step further, focusing on all the negativity brings additional negativity. As they say, misery loves company.
Instead, you and I need to continue to focus on the positives. When my flat tire occurred, instead of becoming frustrated, I was thankful there was a parking garage for shelter and I wasn’t left on the side of the road. I was thankful I positioned myself to have the ability to financially deal with the situation. I was thankful I have a girlfriend that drove out of her way to follow me to the tire shop.
“Whatever you think about you bring about; whatever you focus on grows.” — Tom O’Brien
The more we prepare, learn, and reflect, the quicker we can continue to focus on the positive aspects of life. There is always a time and place to be sad and sulk in negativity, but if we acknowledge it for too long we run the risk of losing sight of what truly matters in life. Negativity is choice, we must choose to focus on positivity and make it grow instead.