You Might Be A Breastfeeding Mom If…
Today, we are going to talk about a topic that is talked about a lot, but I feel not from an open perspective. This is your trigger warning now, because we are going to talk about breastfeeding. First, there are two parts for his word: breast and feeding. The first part of the word, means the breast of the female anatomy.The second part of the word, feeding is to eat something. If we put it together, it’s eating from the breast.
If I could take an open poll of how many mothers have successfully failed breastfeeding, I think the number would be higher than those who have successfully breastfed their child. I feel like there should be a group for breastfeeding mothers called BFA: Breastfeeding Anonymous. And we would all start off the conversations by saying, “Hi, my name is (Insert-Name-Here) and I breastfeed my child.”
People seem to think that breastfeeding your child is easy or something. Most mom’s give up before they can even achieve the greatness of the journey because their nipples are sore. I am not shaming formula feeding moms. I repeat, I am not shaming formula feeding moms. I feed my daughter with both, breastmilk first. Formula second. If it wasn’t for formula, a lot of babies wouldn’t be here. The purpose of this article is to just give you some insights of breastfeeding.
Whether you choose to feed your baby by your breast, or choose to feed your baby by a bottle and formula, you are not any less of a mother. You are a champion either way. Some women choose to strictly formula feed and not even try breastfeeding, while others try and fail. And others are overproducers, and then there are people like me who are caught right in the middle. I am a low producer. I take medication to help regulate my milk supply. I should drink more water, and I don’t. But I have survived four months of breastfeeding. FOUR MONTHS. My goal is a year. Eight more months to go. I can do this.
If I can do this being a combo-feeder, anyone can! Here is a bit of the routine I go through daily: I wake up and pump before my daughter is awake. I pump 1-2 oz combined. Then I nurse my baby and give her a bottle of 4 oz of formula. She is taking in 6 oz because I figure I usually produce 1-2 oz combined at each feeding. So she always has at least 2 oz breastmilk and 4 oz of formula. This is 6 oz per feeding. She eats every 2-3 hours. So if I produce 2 oz roughly every 2 hours. That’s 24 oz. So I produce roughly an oz per hour. She needs more formula. If I produced 36-48oz in a 24 hour period, she wouldn’t need formula. But because I only produce 24oz, I supplement with formula. It took me a long time to be okay with supplementing. I realized I am lucky to be able to nurse my child at all. I am extremely lucky.
Let’s talk about being a breastfeeding mom verses being a formula feeding mom:
YOU MIGHT BE A BREASTFEEDING MOM IF YOU DON’T KNOW WHAT A BRA IS ANYMORE. Seriously, what is a bra? I can’t remember the last time I wore a well supported one. I am sure there is a lot of other moms with me. Finding the nursing friendly bra that fits you the best is a lot like test driving a vehicle. It’s very hard to find the right one. You can spend months searching.
YOU MIGHT BE A BREASTFEEDING MOM IF YOU CAN’T REMEMBER THE LAST TIME YOU DRANK A GLASS OF WINE. Let’s be honest, all moms deserve a glass of wine at the end of a crazy hectic day. Wine is what keeps some moms heads in good spirits through the growth spurts. But nursing moms, lets be honest, it’s hard to find time to have a glass of wine because you’re over paranoid you’ll pass it on to your baby.
YOU MIGHT BE A BREASTFEEDING MOM, IF YOU UNDERSTAND CLUSTER-FEEDING. If you give your child strictly formula, you will not understand the cluster-feeding aspect of things the same way. Cluster-feeding is seeing your baby at every mental leap and/or growth spurt. It’s living life inside the baby carrier because your baby is constantly nursing. It’s not sleeping a wink for a days in a row. But falling asleep so quickly at 8 pm on a Friday night.
YOU MIGHT BE A BREASTFEEDING MOM IF YOU OWN MORE MATERNITY CLOTHES, THAN REGULAR CLOTHES. Much like the bra situation, maternity clothes fit better when you are nursing because your boobs grow and decrease when you nurse, and inflate when you’re away from baby. It’s a vicious cycle and I truly believe it does make a difference because if I put on a size medium shirt it feels like a small. But if I put on an XL maternity shirt it feels like heaven.
YOU MIGHT BE A COMBO-FEEDING MOM, IF YOU OWN MORE BOTTLES THAN YOU DO WINE GLASSES. I suppose we are getting back to wine here. I promise I don’t drink. I am one of those paranoid moms. But I also own so many Comotomo brand bottles. They are this bottle that releases formula, like a breast releases milk. It’s the coolest invention in the world.
There are a lot of different brand bottles that work for you as a mom, but if you are combo-feeding its ten times harder. If you switch to bottle to quickly, you may have to exclusively pump because the baby will loose its latch to your breast. Then as a mom we get lazy, and we don’t want to pump, or we have issues responding to the pump. The pump does not regulate your supply as well as its suppose to.
Remember, if you are a formula and breastfeeding mom like me, you are a warrior. Remember, if you are an exclusively pumping momma, you are a warrior. Remember, if you are a strictly formula feeding momma, you are a warrior. And remember, if you are an exclusively breastfeeding momma, you are a warrior. We are all warriors to our little ones. We are all brave individuals. We all birthed a child, whether it was a vaginal delivery or a caesarean delivery. Traumatic, or not. We did a beautiful thing, and we need to remember to thank one another.