The Trials Of Fake Friends
For me, I have found that true friends will be supportive of you no matter what you choose to do, even in the worst-case scenario. They’re willing to be there when the pieces crumble to help you pick up the pieces and put them back together as best as possible. They don’t lecture you but they do try to help you see the lessons learned from the experience. They stick by you through thick and thin. And, when concerned, they speak up. Sometimes it can sound harsh, but it is because they care. If they didn’t care, they wouldn’t be so upset after all.
But, some only wish you well and leave you to your own devices, without trying to do anything or offering any advice. These are the ones you have to pause and think about. The ones that don’t make you think or get you thinking about what you can be doing.
You have to ask yourself, do they really care?
Some might be going through their own trials admittedly. But, others you have to wonder about. And, then when you reach a conclusion, you have to think what to do next. I’m not going to tell you what to do because that is a personal choice and up to each individual to make. I can’t make that decision for you, that is a decision you have to reach on your own once you realize that some of your friends don’t have your best interest at heart. And, you also have to be ready to accept that you could be wrong at the same time.
Admittedly, I was furious when I first thought this and I put that anger into a story. And, the character in that story is not me in real life. Maybe once long ago it could have been, but not anymore. Too much has changed about my life and who I am as a person. And, part of the reason why I have changed has to do with who I surround myself with and what I have accomplished in services. Things like that change you and the path you are walking. And, it’s hard to admit that I could have turned out to be a monster, but I have to be honest with myself that it was a possibility at one point in time. And, somewhere in the multiverse, it did happen.
I could have chosen to get rid of those friends that did nothing for me and some people might find that to be the answer. Heck, a lot of psychological sites say to do just that. And, to be honest, I considered it at first. Then I prayed about it and read some religious texts as well as talked to my spiritual leaders about it. They agreed it would be my right to do so, but not within the spirit of the teachings I wanted to follow. And, when I looked into my heart I had to agree with them all on that.
Ultimately, I decided to forgive them and let them be off in their own world and not rely on them for anything, but also not let them rely on me for anything. It seemed like the best course to take. Though, if they are ever in dire need, I don’t think I would turn them away. After all, The Golden Rule says, “Do unto others as you would have them do unto you,” and I have to set a good example. And, at the same time, I can’t let myself be walked all over. Yes, I know that is a tough line to walk, but still, I will walk it. After all, I have to be able to look myself in the mirror at the end of the day.
*Tips his hat and walks out the door*.