Introverts Are Not Pets
“…because I rant not, neither rave of what I feel, can you be so shallow as to dream that I feel nothing?” ― R.D. Blackmore, Lorna Doone.
My nephew posted a video on his Facebook page. I had mix feelings about this video. I can relate to what is being said, but again in many parts of the video, I became upset. I felt like while giving valuable information on introverts it was also making fun of them.
The video starts out by explaining the difference between extroverts and introverts. The video explains that extroverts get their energy by hanging out with people. The video makes sure the viewer knows introverts are not mentally ill, but treats the introverts as pets instead of human beings.
An extrovert (vita activa) is an outgoing person. They are active with people and their environment. Per Psychology Today, around 50-74 percent of the population are extroverts.
An introvert (vita contemplative) is a solitary person. They prefer an inwardness towards one’s self. Per Psychology Today, around 16-50 percent of the population are introverts.
An ambivert, which is not covered in the video, is someone who is a combination of extrovert and introvert. I believe everyone has in them an extrovert and an introvert. That it depends on the situation at hand, depends on which trait will be used. But, I also believe a person can have more of one and less of another. Like me, I am introverted to the point that it affects my life choices.
The video goes on about how to get an introvert. Again, making introverts look like pets instead of human beings. You can adopt a baby introvert called a ‘Shylet’ or rescue an adult from an introvert shelter known as a library.
Now they show you how to take care of your pet introvert, by using a cat comparison of a litter box, a bowl, and an escape route.
The video has names for a pair of introverts, “awkward.” And a group of introverts, “angst.” Shylet is a made-up word; it may mean a shy baby. Awkward is a feeling of embarrassment or a hard to deal with the situation. Angst sounds made-up, but it’s not; it is a feeling of deep anxiety or a sense of fear.
Introverts are not pets. They are human beings and no different from extroverts or ambiverts. You do not adopt an introvert, but you can become friends who are introverts. We are not in groups or packs, so drop the names. Not all introverts suffer from depression or anxiety.
The video shows a version of a typical conversation with an introvert. They give you a side-by-side conversation between a person and an introvert. The introvert, by the way, has a bag or a box on his head. The discussion does not sound realistic, but awkward.
We don’t say things like that, at least I don’t. If someone says, “Hi.” I say, “Hi” back or nod. If they ask, “How’s it going?” I don’t reply with the word, “Yes.” I reply with the word, “Fine.” Internally, I would be crying for help and trying to find a way out. But, how the video displays the conversation with an introvert, I believe is wrong.
The video makes fun of DNA, saying the two chains of DNA are too embarrassed to, “… twist around each other.” Which leads to what they called a “Sorrybellum,” in other words it leads the introverts to say sorry all the time. According to the video, the “mutated DNA” creates an “Anxietal Lobe.” Believe it or not, anxietal is a real word. It means causing anxiety, nervousness or worry. Of course, this is all a joke, and there is no science to make this claim up. But, still, it is a form making a joke at the introverts’ expense.
I am not a scientist, but I doubt the DNA chains are to blame. But how the brain works, the neural differences in the brain.
Again, the video treats introverts as animals and not human beings. The video describes introverts as being, “…excellent fighting animals.” The video uses the video game reference, “leveling up,” to explain separate phases. Starting off as an occasional reader, to a hermit, to playing a character toon on an MMO game.
Introverts are not “fighting animals.” Introverts prefer to stay out of such situations. Introverts try to find ways to settle a problem without fighting.
Yes, introverts like to read. Many people believe introverts would make great writers.
Saying that introverts are hermits is going too far. Many introverts live with roommates. They have friends and are married. Many introverts go to social outings.
I do not know about all introverts, but I do play video games. Not EVE, like in the video, but World of Warcraft. The thing is, I don’t group with people to do dungeons or raids. I beg my husband to do that for me. He is an extrovert, and he loves playing video games, mainly Dungeons and Dragons online.
The video believes introverts come with “low maintenance costs.” But they are a “high embarrassment risk.” By using video game references, “Retreat to Toilet” to recover health points. Using the “Agreeable Conversation,” as a defensive move. But, the introvert can be defeated by a direct eye contact.
If you mean, “low maintenance,” as not having to spend much money, maybe. As I said, I am an introvert, and I love the latest gadgets, which costs money. But, it is the simple things in life that I like. I would rather go on a picnic than to a restaurant. Instead of a movie, sit and watch the stars in the sky. Instead of fancy gifts, attention and time with the one I love is a better gift.
The video quickly returns to the pet references. Rewarding the introvert, by giving them a colorful toy, tummy rubs, or not forcing them to talk about their emotions.
If there is any mistreatment of the introvert, a visit from the “Antisocial Services” will come knocking on your door. To avoid the “Antisocial Services,” the video suggests not to belittle the introvert in front of friends, disturbing their books, especially the first editions, and the most critical, calling instead of texting.
Introverts need no rewards from their friends. I find the two rewards in the video insulting. But the third one makes sense.
By the way, there is no “Antisocial Services.’”Again, introverts are not pets or characters in a video game. But, how to treat your friend who is an introvert is important. Belittling or negative talk about us or to us is not a good idea. If you have something to say, take us to the side away from public, co-workers, family and other friends. If you are part of a team chat, try private messaging them with any constructive criticism. Texting is a good idea, let your introvert friend decide rather there should be a phone call or not.
Despite the video’s version of failing. Failure to follow the rules may cause your introvert friend to retreat into their home. Making it harder for you and your introvert friend to go out. I doubt there would be any backhanded compliments, or impolite sigh offs via texts and emails. Introverts would just turn off the phone and ignore you. Give them their space to calm down and assess the situation.
When the video comes to the romance department, it is the only time they mention introverts as humans.
This part of the video I can relate. It is awkward when an introvert likes someone. It’s scary to talk to the person you like, but eventually, the awkwardness fades away, and a connection is made.
The video suggests how to get rid of the introvert pet in your life. You do so by disconnecting the internet. Also, by making them feel guilty, causing them to retreat to their safe space.
Towards the end of the video, introverts are seen as pets and not human beings. Taking the idea that the human looks like their pet after a while. The non-introvert begins to resemble the introvert by finding introverted traits within themselves.
Once again, introverts are not pets. If you want your friend, who is an introvert, to leave, just politely tell them that you want some alone time.
No one is 100 percent introverted or extroverted. We may have more of one than the other or equal amounts. All introverts are not the same; we are all different. As for finding introvert traits within yourself, they were always there. Your introverted friend helped bring those qualities to the surface.
As for the video
The video was probably created not to poke fun at introverts, but to help educate people about introverts using comedy. But, the way they did it, does come off a bit wrong and bullyish. The video comes off as master and slave or owner and pet. The video comes off making introverts seem incompetent. That they need someone to take care of them, which is wrong. Many introverts, if not all introverts, can take care of themselves.
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