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What It Means To Be Kind To Myself

By Tish MacWebber
February 24, 2020
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I am on a mission to learn how to be more kind to myself. It isn’t about giving in to junk food or going out shopping. Treats are necessary, but what I want to work on is rewarding myself in ways that don’t cost a lot of money, or come at the cost of my health. Sure, I might have a remarkable day in a clothing store and find some wonderful sales. I love a good deal as much as you do. I also enjoy eating out, but it is not the best option for the budget or my waistline. So, what do I mean, when I say I am learning to be more kind to myself?

It starts from within. For years I let a little nasty voice in my head tell me to look in the mirror every morning, just to see how tired I looked. As I got used to this negative self-talk, the dialogue switched. I looked into the mirror to see how bad I looked, EVERY DAY. When I finally realized what was happening, I made some changes.

I worked with a coach in an emotional weight loss group. I weigh over 300 lbs. I am carrying more than just fat on my body; it is a layer of protection for my emotional self.  Working with a coach helped me to change the inner dialogue when I look into the mirror.  Now when I look in the mirror, I look at myself with love in my eyes. I try to look at myself the way my husband looks at me, which might sound weird, but is very effective. It has changed how I feel about myself, from the inside to the outside.

Yes, I have flaws. I know I have work to do to become healthier, but what a feeling it is to look at yourself in the mirror and to do so with love, and therefore, kindness.

I have always loved my blue eyes, but I have never thought of myself as beautiful

I have been on a journey my whole life, and I believe we all are on a journey through life. We all have different stories and experiences on our own paths; the similarities connect people all over the world. The internet has expanded my circle of friends, and how I am experiencing personal growth.

I am not referring to my waistline, rather working on myself by reading books, taking online courses, and meeting new people who become friends along the way. I am sharing my journey on my blog, and on my social media platforms.

I took a chance and started selling makeup. I do not wear makeup every day. I feel more confident when I spend time applying makeup. I am not hiding behind a mask. I am enhancing my own natural beauty. I would not have been able to do this before I changed the way I think about myself when I look in the mirror. I have always loved my blue eyes, but I have never thought of myself as beautiful until recently. This is what I focus on with others through my makeup business. We are all beautiful, friends, and it is something I want to keep working on. By showing others I am having fun while having adventures with makeup, I can help them learn how to be kind to themselves.

Change doesn’t come easily, nor does it happen overnight. What I can tell you is that it is worth the effort, because it is something people have noticed. Random strangers are commenting on how I am looking, or if they like what I am wearing. These things are not a coincidence, I am very grateful for all the encouragement I receive on my journey, and I know that if I keep working, things will only get better. I am so proud of myself for doing the work and sharing my journey.

Being kind to myself involves making better choices in all areas of my life. It also means I can make mistakes, and learn from them. Being kind to myself is all about that self-talk in my head, and letting the positive voice of my heart speak louder than the negative one in my head. It means I have to learn how to love myself, including my flaws, to prepare for what is coming to me.

What a beautiful concept.

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Tish MacWebber

Tish Mac Webber's writing is her purpose, creativity is her passion, and jewellery designing is her pleasure. She is inspired by the ocean, especially where the Atlantic Ocean kisses the beaches of Cape Breton Island, where her own story began. She is the author who is Always Thinking... the jewellery designer who is Always Blinging...and her superpower is always being full of surprises! Tish MacWebber, Always Blinging… her jewellery designing hobby is the latest addition to her website. Her speciality is creating one of a kind, custom designs for her clients. She loves to delight her customers with her interpretations of what they order, staying true to her gifts of being full of surprises, and putting her talents to full use. In October 2018, her first book, From Where I am Sitting... A Collection of Cat Tales was published and is available on Amazon. It will be accompanied by her Limited Cat Tales Jewellery Collection, which can also be found on her website. Tish MacWebber is currently writing her second book, in which she will explore her latest concept. #Tishspiration, her latest creation, is defined as the art of surprising yourself. You can find more information about these and other projects at https://tishmacwebber.com/

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