We’re ass-deep in bathroom confusion: Gender has this issue twisted all wrong. Some folks are worrying about trans women, But I’ve been thinking of trans men all along.  They’re the ones watching for landmines As they enter the predator’s den; People who think of “grape” as they shit Seem to flock to the sign that reads “men.”  I’ll invite trans folks on my potty ...

Sometimes my confidence in my identity wavers. However, one aspect that I’ve learned to embrace is my sexuality. I’m a proud member of the LGBTQ+ community and identify as pansexual. To be clear, pansexuality means I experience sexual, romantic, and emotional attraction to anyone, regardless of their presentation.   I recall learning that definition during research years ago and thinking, “Wow, ...

“Yeee-OUCH!” My Tusken Raider voice ululates, and my hands flit to my neck to wrest any ponytail I have left from Abby’s grasp. “What are you doing back there?”   With a huff, she releases her hold on the brush she’s wrapped my curls around. “Trying to tame this rat’s nest.”    “Well, brute force isn’t the answer,” I assure her, carefully unwinding single strands from the cylindrical bristles. “Hand me that detangling spray.”   She steps aside and shuffles the bottles of product crowding the top shelf of the rolling cart stuffed between our desks. The ...

“Darkness cannot drive out darkness; only light can do that. Hate cannot drive out hate; only love can do that.” – Martin Luther King Jr. . . . . . . April 15, 2020, 5:30 p.m. I was sitting on the couch binge-watching Ozark when my cellphone vibrated on the coffee table. It was a ...