Getting interrupted is frustrating. Just when you gather your thoughts to make your point, the other person cuts you off, leaving you feeling belittled and annoyed. It might not be intentional, but interruptions during conversations can cause you to feel dismissed and lose your train of thought. The lack of communication techniques sets you up as a victim to this common and disrespectful pet peeve. However, you can ensure you speak with conviction by setting boundaries and adopting speaking skills like assertiveness, leaving no chance for anyone to talk over you anymore.

Why You Frequently Get Interrupted

Have you ever wondered why you are constantly interrupted by others while talking? I came across a TED Talk on this topic while trying to find answers. The speaker says that certain individuals get cut off because they are often easy to interrupt. To be honest, I wasn’t happy with this reasoning because it came across as harsh and direct without addressing the interrupter as well. It seemed too simple, as I was expecting a different and more thorough answer. However, after giving it some thought, I realized it is that straightforward. If you don’t respect yourself, you can’t expect it from anyone. For example, people can sense whether they can take advantage of you. The same goes during discussions if they perceive that you lack self-assurance or communication skills. 

You may need a second to voice your opinion, or you may struggle with stuttering and use too many filler words. However, that doesn’t give anyone the right to talk over you. Conversations are mutual if both parties listen and respond promptly. You shouldn’t take it personally, as a person often interrupts out of habit or impatience. Basic etiquette is not always taught or obvious. That’s why it’s useful to know some tips and tricks so you can minimize disruptions.

How to Handle Interruptions

You’ll need to consider the setting when approaching each conversation, as how you handle the situation varies depending on how casual or formal the environment is. Establishing the tone at the beginning is key to securing your space. A firm stance, body language, and good eye contact are necessary but not sufficient without clear boundaries. You can be direct and say, “I will only say this once, so no interruptions please.” You can also say, “This is important,” or “I’m not finished yet.” This calls out the person who constantly cuts you off, but you should use this amongst friends and family and in a polite but assertive tone. You can adjust statements for work environments by saying, “That’s a good idea, but I’d like to finish my point first.” You’ll immediately claim the floor back, making it clear you don’t let interruptions slide. Now, people will be discouraged from interrupting as it clearly disrupts the flow of the conversation or meeting. You should call them out while remaining calm and composed rather than reacting with anger. Regain your esteem by maintaining composure and inspire others to build their courage and speak up for themselves. 

You deserve to be heard. You don’t have to accept getting interrupted. If you set the necessary boundaries and build your confidence, everyone will respect your presence and time. When people sense that you own your space and value yourself, they tend to match that energy.

Editor: Shannon Hensley